I spoke with my father last week. He was having a cold (again) but he was OK, as much he could be.
Roxana brought them the baby, and dad was suddenly younger. His voice sounded young.
Magda told me that we are to fix his kidneys deficiency. He always had a kidneys problem but never really bother to fix. Today he started again chemo. One more month to go and then back to Debrecen he goes for follow up.
I noticed that he was in good spirit lately. I am not sure if is a permanent thing or just a phase.
I just realised that my parents do not know to function as a couple anymore. Is not the cancer that drives them crazy, but themselves, each other. They always had children around, grand children, etc. They only have been together as a couple without children, briefly before I come around..So that is why is so difficult now...
I succeeded to make them say I love you every time we finish a phone conversation. Isn't this something? They never say it in my family, they feel is wrong to do it...but now finally they say it to me. I am not sure if they will ever say it to my sisters, I think they will find that weird..
Anyway, I very much I love you too mom and dad.
Monday, March 21, 2011
Thursday, March 10, 2011
The follow up with the Hungarian doctor
This week my parents went to Hungary for a follow up check up.
It appears that on my father's brain there are two signs that could be either scars from the prior surgery or two roots of two new tumours.
The doctor said that is to soon for him to tell that father is entirely cancer free. He gave my father two more sessions of chemo, and he is expecting my father back the end of April.
My father still believes that all this was just a doctor "mambo-jumbo" and that he was (Imagine) healthy before the surgery and he never had cancer..So he is still in denial. I am not expecting him to embrace cancer but I hoped he will be reasonable about it. But he is not. Although he should not drive any longer he wants to go by himself in Hungary in April. If you try to talk him out he will be very depressed thinking that we are treating him this way because we do not consider him normal due to his brain surgery (which he should never had done in his opinion).
Mom is very tired of all this, dad is very difficult to live with lately.
Life goes on, we are happy for now, and for this second we will hope that dad will be himself again.
It appears that on my father's brain there are two signs that could be either scars from the prior surgery or two roots of two new tumours.
The doctor said that is to soon for him to tell that father is entirely cancer free. He gave my father two more sessions of chemo, and he is expecting my father back the end of April.
My father still believes that all this was just a doctor "mambo-jumbo" and that he was (Imagine) healthy before the surgery and he never had cancer..So he is still in denial. I am not expecting him to embrace cancer but I hoped he will be reasonable about it. But he is not. Although he should not drive any longer he wants to go by himself in Hungary in April. If you try to talk him out he will be very depressed thinking that we are treating him this way because we do not consider him normal due to his brain surgery (which he should never had done in his opinion).
Mom is very tired of all this, dad is very difficult to live with lately.
Life goes on, we are happy for now, and for this second we will hope that dad will be himself again.
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